Doing Nothing, yet Everything

Parenting is one of the most exhausting things I've ever experienced. It is non-stop, demanding and there's no 'day off' or 'break'. There's a routine to follow (feed-burp-poo-play-nap for babies; eat-sleep-play for toddlers; school-class-homework for older kids) everyday; there's always a to-do list stuck on the fridge and as soon as things get ticked off, new things appear; weekdays are busy with running the house and chauffering the kids and weekends pass in a blur of activities (trips to the zoo/ museum/ park to keep the kids entertained burn off that insane amount of energy kids possess), running from piano lessons to tennis ones or just attending parties where you are bombarded with 20 other noisy kids. It's a never-ending cycle. LIFE JUST WHIZZES.

We usually plan something for the weekends too, because if we're just home, Little Man gets all fidgety (read: bored) by 10 am (he's up at the crack of dawn, even on a bloomin' Sunday!!!). Then the whining and requests for TV begin and by noon we've given in to everything and basically given up. OR, we exhaust ourselves playing superheroes and cars and puzzles or whatever with him, and land up feeling more tired fried! Outside, Little Man is occupied, the change of scene does us all good and the day just seems to pass quicker and is usually a lot more fun.

However, last Sunday was a bit different. We didn't plan for it to be so, but it turned out to be one of the best weekends in a long time. Saturday was filled with house viewings, and then a trip to the mall. Since the weather was getting warmer and we hadn't visited the zoo in a long, long time, we had that slotted in for Sunday. EXCEPT, roll over Sunday morning and Little Man wasn't in the mood to go. Anywhere.

Live in the moment

He was up as usual verrry verry early (according to Sunday Standard Time at least) and so we all were. Great, we thought, we'll have an early start and beat the crowds. But after breakfast and the usual morning stuff, Little Man just lounged around not wanting to go to the zoo. A place he usually enjoys. After some persuasion, we dropped the idea but still felt the need to go somewhere, especially since it felt like Spring in February! The park? 'No'. The riverside for a walk or scooter-ride? 'No'. Anywhere you would like to go? 'No, I just want to stay at home today'.

So, we all stayed home. Laziness began to creep in. We got ready for a day of letting Little Man get more than his share of telly, and mentally prepared ourselves for tantrums as the day progressed, when the deadly combination of tiredness and boredom kicks in.

EXCEPT none of the above happened. And it turned out to be such a lovely, relaxing and fun day!

We played a lot. All three of us. Together. Hubster, Little Man and myself. We were all super heroes catching the imaginary bad guys. We all sat on the floor and built a kickass lego structure. We all lounged on the couch and read books. And saw random episodes of Batman, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Caillou. We laughed. We put on music and danced. We sang. We talked. About this, that and the other. And the icing on the cake – Little Man willingly went for a nice, long afternoon nap, giving hubster and myself some time together.

 

Running around the house dressed as Spiderman

The 'kickass' lego we made together

The evening was lazy too (none of us stepped out of the house or our PJs, for that matter), but it didn't matter. We had done nothing all day, really, yet we did so much. As a family. We bonded over love and laughter (not that we don't otherwise but it just felt so relaxed). There was no rush to be somewhere, do something. There were no deadlines. We just were…

make your own magic

When I went to bed on Sunday night, I felt refreshed, even though I had been up since 6.30 am. I was ready to tackle Monday and the week ahead. I realised that sometimes these impromptu days of doing nothing and not planning every detail of your day can be so calming, yet so fun. Needless to say, I had a good night's sleep too…

 

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46 Responses

  1. WebMDiva

    It always amazes me how young kids are so very full of life and energy. Can't we bottle that and sell it or something?

    I love that you guys were able to spend good quality family time together. I think that's so important. Your son will always remember those days. XO

    #ShowMeYours

    • Nicole

      True, it's these moments and days that our kids will cherish and remember… and in the hustle and bustle of daily life, they are SO important.

      Bottle up and sell their excess energy – love that idea!!! Or at least, we could use some of it!

  2. Laura - Autumn's Mummy

    It sounds such a lovely day! Sometimes some of the nicest days are when things just spontaneously happen rather than you trying to make a nice day happen. I love the picture of him running around dressed as Spiderman! #MarvMondays

    • Nicole

      Thank you:) And yes, often spontaneous days are way more fun than well-planned outings. I guess sometimes it's just best to go with the flow.

  3. Becky, Cuddle Fairy

    I agree that putting in a little effort & time with the family really is magic, it's all about those simple moments but if we are only half focusing while doing something else we aren't really experiencing & sharing in the joy. It's lovely to have you join us at #candidcuddles xx

    • Nicole

      Lovely to be part of another super linky! Thank you… and yes, agree on being completely in the moment. It's what makes all the difference!

  4. ohmummymia

    Sounds like awesome day! you spend a qulity time with your little one I love those days when I don't need to worry about dinner, work and etc

    #DreamTeam

    • Nicole

      Yeah, nothing feels better than a day well-spent with family, correct?

  5. Rhyming with Wine

    There is such a lesson for so many of us in this post I think hon.  The hub and I often get to the end of the day and realise that while we have packed it full of "fun things to do" for the kids, we haven't actually engaged properly with them or had quality one to one time.  Sometimes we should all have a day of doing nothing together.  It sounds like a perfect Sunday to me.  Thanks for linking up with #DreamTeam lovely x

    • Nicole

      Aww thanks Dawn, that's such a sweet reply… yes, we often get so stressed in ensuring our kids are 'entertained' or 'occupied' that we don't really spend "quality time" with them. And I guess those are the memories that everyone really cherishes.

  6. Kiki and Ginge

    How do children not run out of energy?! I swear my little one runs on lifelong AA batteries even when we spend it at home not doing much. Like you, I am absolutely knackered at the end of the day – going to work is a welcome break and it's true what you said, we never have a day off as parents. I've also found that with tiredness comes illness, there's never any 'me time' to rest and recover, and the chances of couple time are few and far between. It's good to know I'm not the only parent who tries to cram in as much as possible to entertain our children and hope there's time with the husband. x

    • Nicole

      Agree on the battery bit… I also call my Little Man Duracell Battery;) And yes, it is exhausting keeping them entertained and occupied, but that's why these unplanned 'chill out' days are relaxing, enjoyable and a welcome break!

    • Nicole

      Yes, sometimes going with the flow gets the most unexpected (and enjoyable) results!

  7. Mrs Mummy Harris

    Sometimes lazy days are the best days! I love nothing better then messing around at home relaxed and just being silly! Little man looks super cool as a superhero with his mask up top!
    Thanks for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you again on Tuesday!

    • Nicole

      Thanks for the lovely comment. Yes, thumbs up to lazy days spent at home:)

  8. Jaki

    These kind of days are the best kind. We love a pyjama day and make the most of when we have nowhere to be. Glad you enjoyed it and hope you get many more like it. Thanks so much for linking up to #TriumphantTales – hope to see you again on Tuesday!

    • Nicole

      Thanks Jaki… I too love it when PJ nights turn into PJ days, and roll onto the nights again:)

  9. Lisa (mummascribbles)

    Sometimes the best days are the unexpected ones. It's funny how we know when it's best not to push them into doing something they just don't want to do. Glad you had a lovely day together, and yay for the nap! Thanks so much for linking up with #ourweekendhappy

    • Nicole

      True, sometimes it's better to just go with the flow rather than going according to schedule… nothing like impromptu fun!!!

  10. Lucy Howard

    I love days like this. You worry that they are going to be filled with tears and tantrums. But PJ days where you just focus on each other can be the best days. I know that my daughter loves lazy days like this and she often asks for them. Hopefully you can take Little Man to the zoo on another weekend. Thanks so much for linking up to #ourweekendhappy. We hope to see you back with us tomorrow. Hugs Lucy xxxx

    • Nicole

      Focussing on each other – spot on! Quality time spent with them is key to keeping them happy…

    • Nicole

      I so agree. It's a cliche but such a true one, which we realise only in retrospect.

    • Nicole

      Thanks Kate. Me too – sometimes we all need these kind of days to just get back on track. And sometimes, these are the most relaxed, stress-free and memorable.

  11. Emma : Ettieandme

    Sounds like a lovely day, I love days when the three of us can be home together and just enjoy each others company. Glad you ended the day feeling refreshed #itsok

    • Nicole

      Thanks Emma. Yes, these kind of days often land up being the most special, don't they?! Thanks for joining us at #itsok

  12. Gemma - Mummy's Waisted

    I love days like this, but it's taken me a long time to give up 'planning' out the whole weekend in full minute detail. Sometimes it works, sometimes we have do an emergency trip to the cake shop! #itsok

    • Nicole

      Haha, but visits to the cake shop can't be a bad thing, right?;)

  13. Millie

    What a lovely day. I know how you felt when it was sunny- you must go out and make the most, but it turned out so nicely. It just shows you we can let little people take the lead sometimes… Must try catching some imaginary villains when we have a lounge at home day 🙂 #itsok

    • Nicole

      True, we can let our children lead us sometimes, makes it much easier and happier:)
      PS: Do let me know how you get along with the villain catching;)

  14. Sons Over the Yardarm

    Ooh, I love it when you can get away with a lazy one. Although now I'm so used to getting out and about and being productive or useful or just doing something for the sake of it, that I usually find it's me that's getting twitchy about going out on the rare occasions that The Boys aren't fussed! I think the relentless nature of parenting has fundamentally changed me….bloody hope I can change back when they grow up!! #itsok

    • Nicole

      Hahaha, I get what you mean! We like to 'plan' our weekends and holidays too so that Little Man isn't bored or plonked in front of the telly, but sometimes a lazy day does so much good for all of us!

    • Nicole

      Very true Kelly; if they're not in the mood to do something, nothing will make them change their little minds! Best to go with the flow…

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