The #itsok challenge: Ditching the Mum Guilt

I'm loving the #itsok challenge that Jennie from the parenting blog Rice Cakes and Raisins has started. It's a mission to make us fellow mums feel a bit better about ourselves, our parenting skills (or lack thereof) and to reassure each and every exhausted mum out there that we're all doing OK. To read more on the challenge, and to participate, read this.

 

 

So here are my 10 #itsok to confessions; how many resonate with you too?

1)  #itsok to give your toddler fish fingers for dinner – again – because you are too damn tired to cook a fresh meal.

2)  #itsok to hand your phone/ the i-pad/ kindle/ any electronic device to your toddler first thing in the morning, just so you get 15 more minutes shut-eye.

3)  #itsok to skip a few lines (or pages) of a book you've already read to your toddler 87 times!

4)  #itsok to threaten to cancel your kid's birthday party (note: I said threaten; I would never really do it) because he's throwing tantrums every day for everything!

5)  #itsok to scroll through Facebook or check Twitter while on the loo – you deserve those extra five minutes of alone-time. Unless, of course you have an audience aka your toddler!

6)  #itsok to let your four-year-old co-sleep – if it works for you'll as a family and everyone's getting sleep, then #itsok. Your child will not be in your bed when he or she is 17!

7)   #itsok to let your pre-schooler be a baby once in a while – let him sleep in your bed if he wants to, feed him if he wants to be fed, allow him to sit on your lap. Because blink and these days are gone…

8)  #itsok to pretend to be in deep sleep when your toddler has an early start on a weekend – and let your dear husband wake up and take him downstairs. (Hubster, if you're reading this, I am really in deep sleep. Promise)

9) #itsok to lose your s**t sometimes. Parenting is tough, toddlers/ pre-schoolers can sometimes be a***holes, and every moment cannot be rose-tinted. The reality is lack of sleep, a load full of tantrums, and food thrown on the floor. So – its jolly well ok to lose it sometimes. We are supermums yes, but we are also human.

10)  #itsok to just sit back and relax once in a while. The dishes and laundry can wait, your toddler can play by himself (if everything else fails, switch on the telly), and that blog post that's been sitting in your drafts folder for days can rest for another day. Don't let the guilt ruin it. Sit down, close your eyes, drink a cup of tea, read a few pages of your favourite book or a trashy magazine… forget the world and refresh even if it's just for five minutes! You deserve it mum!!!

Do any of these resonate with you? What are your #itsok confessions? I'd love to read them…

 

Its ok to... ditching the mumguilt

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46 Responses

  1. Emma

    Ahaha, the deep sleep and fish fingers is always a winner over here but I can relate to every single one! #FridayFrolics

  2. Silly Mummy

    Yep, all definitely okay! Especially fish fingers – one of the few things both my kids will always eat! Thanks so much for joining us for #FridayFrolics

  3. Wendy

    Umm, big fat yes to every single one of these! I would also add #itsok to put yourself first sometimes too, as that saying goes ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ or something like that. Fab post xx #blogcrush

    • Nicole

      Thanks Wendy, and completely agree with you on sometimes putting yourself first. We need a break from time to time.

  4. Clare

    hahaha I absolutely love this!!! In fact with number 1 Freddie told me off as he had fish fingers at school and couldn't possibly have them for dinner as well, as it was junk food!!!!!! HE HAD THEM ANYWAY!!!!

    • Nicole

      LOL… though it's so annoying when our kids won't eat the same meal – again!!! I mean, we're giving you yummy stuff, just eat it now, will you!;) Thank you so much for linking up with us at #itsok

  5. Jayne

    Brilliant post number 8 is me every Saturday no #mumguilt here for that one would get up to my 2 even at the weekend but now I'm pregnant again not a chance I'm taking all the sleep I can get!! #itsok

    • Nicole

      Well done! You deffo deserve the weekend lie-ins:) Thanks for linking up with #itsok

    • Nicole

      Oh definitely! Just as it's ok to finish off your kid's Easter chocolates;) Thanks for joining us Claire…

    • Nicole

      Yes, we are often so tied up with keeping the kids and other half happy/ fed/ entertained etc etc etc, that we are too drained to do anything for ourselves. But we must! And #itsok to take 'time out' sometimes. Thanks for linking up with us…

    • Nicole

      Oh I do the loo thing SO OFTEN!!! When push comes to shove and all that;) Thanks for linking up with us at #itsok

  6. Natalie

    I absolutely love this!!!
    It’s so true~I think many of us think that parenting should be wonderful and easy, and yes it’s wonderful but sometimes it’s very hard too. Fab post~we should all be kinder to ourselves for sure xx #itsok

    • Nicole

      Thank you Natalie, that's a lovely comment. No doubt parenting is A-M-A-Z-I-N-G, but it's the hardest, most challenging job – one that drains you physically and mentally! And a little bit of self-love is more than ok. Thanks for linking up with us. #itsok

    • Nicole

      NOT. AT. ALL. Its absolutely ok!!!:) Thank you so much for linking up with us at #itsok

  7. Morgan Prince

    Even with boys aged 9 and 13 I still do the checking Facebook and Twitter when on the loo! And yes, I still get interrupted when I'm in there – it must be something they're taught when they're foetuses and they never forget!!! 😂
    #itsok

    • Nicole

      Hahaha that made me nod along in agreement and laugh at the same time! Seriously, what aversion do kids have with us going to the loo?!
      Thanks so much for joining us at #itsok

    • Nicole

      🙂 glad I'm not the only one!!! Thanks for linking up with us at #itsok Jo.

  8. Susie / S.H.I.T.

    The mum guilt is neverending isn't it. I am constantly feeling like I'm not giving them enough attention, too much attention, they're spending too much on screens (that's a permanent mum guilt of mine!) and the list goes on. It's always good to feel that it's OK and we're all doing the same things. #itsok

    • Nicole

      Too much screen time is a permanent mum-guilt of mine too! And yes, it is never-ending – whatever we do we feel it's never enough or good enough and feel crap about it! But it does feel good to know we're all in the same boat and that #itsok! Thanks so much for linking up with us Susie:)

    • Nicole

      Thank you Lisa, you are too sweet. I'm glad you like the new linky and we hope to see you there every week:)

    • Nicole

      Yes, we so do, and we need to know that we all do it at some point and that it is really ok! Thanks for linking up with us again…

    • Nicole

      Brilliant;) We're all human and it's #ok!!!
      Thanks for linking up with us.

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