There is no denying that a baby will change the dynamics of your whole life, but the one thing many overlook is the impact it can have on your relationship or marriage. The truth is, you become so overwhelmed about parenthood that it becomes your number one priority. Nothing wrong with that. But in the same breath, you need to ensure that as a couple you are also taking care of your relationship. Nobody intends for it to end unless there is no other option. However, there are ways you can try and ensure you go the distance…
Date nights and quality time together
One of the more obvious ways couples can reconnect is to enjoy quality time together. It's likely that at the end of the day you just want to collapse in a heap on the bed and sleep, but sometimes it is worth the effort to reconnect when you do have the time. Date nights are a great way to do this. An organised time when you know there is no other distraction, and your little ones are taken care of. A simple meal out, a coffee date during the day, a trip to the cinema – these can all be things that you can do on a regular basis to help you reconnect. If you don’t have the time to go out, making time indoors can also be fun. Cooking special meals, having an evening of no technology, or just taking an early night.
Admitting there is a problem
The hardest thing any couple can do is admit there is a problem. But sometimes that can be the best way to take positive steps forward. Admitting you have a problem doesn’t necessarily mean you are heading for divorce and calling the Family Law Solicitors, although speaking to someone professional could help you see things more clearly. Talking about the issues you have is the first step towards resolving them. Sometimes, however, the best advice is to go separate ways, but that doesn’t mean that your bond as parents or as a couple has to break. Your children are your priority and that keeps you'll together, even if you'll are apart.
Communicating on a daily basis
Good old-fashioned communication can often be the best medicine when it comes to resolving conflict or hidden emotions. Simple things like asking how each others day was. Talking about what you want to do in the future and sharing your hopes and fears. Communication can open you up and help you to deal with things, perhaps things that you didn’t even know were bubbling under the surface.
Sharing the load
Finally, one big problem parents have, especially when they are new to it, is the workload. Simply put, who does all of the night feeds? Who takes care of the house? If you feel like one of you is doing more than their fair share then this could be causing hostile emotions between the two of you. Try and balance things out as best you can, or better still be proactive and help where you can. It could make a world of difference.
Parenting is tough, but it needn't break you. Or your relationship.
Disclosure: This is a collaborative post